To Be You, Or Not To Be You - That is the Rhetorical Quest

So, I feel like I need to throw something out there to you, Loyal Reader….

We just returned from Simon Leung’s kickass Adword’s workshop in sunny San Jose, CA where we got to talk about Hybrid Marketing to an incredible crowd. Good times…

Side note: Love all the traveling - seeing parts of this fabulous country that all should enjoy. You really do get what you ask for and Bring More Of It On!

Anyway - back on topic…

When we get back from these awesome travels, we thankfully have piles of mail to sort through. (In direct mail, it is BAD to not be getting stuff in the mailbox J)

In these piles of mail we can find requests for more information, orders (happy dance) or general correspondences. The “general correspondence” pile is the most interesting of all.

We get everything from testimonials, to letters of well wishing, to tales of woe about disease and misfortune, to the rantings of deranged fellow Americans.

It never ceases to amaze me, the things that people will take the time to write out (many times in long hand); thoughts, opinions or them talking to or about themselves. Often times in very, um, shall we saw colorful fashion?

It’s one of these “general correspondences” that I would like to take a few minutes of your valuable time to address.

I found this letter in the pile. It quickly stood out. Nice, crisp white envelope. Incredibly even and centered penned addresses. Upon opening the envelope, I found a very nice two paged typed letter on high stock paper.

First glance indicated that this letter was sent by a very intelligent person and let me say, that I was not let down.

To my delight, what I found was a very eloquently written letter addressing how the gentleperson thought our recent hybrid marketing workshop in Flint MI was very well done, giving everything to the attendees that they could expect (and much, much more).

This gentleperson found that the caliber of our event had far surpassed many others that he had attended, even seminars hosted by “the masters” (whatever that means).

In paraphrasing his words, not only did we deliver on all of our promises of HUGE content at our Hybrid Marketing workshop, we brought in a wide variety of guest speakers that nicely rounded out the content AND the attendees were not “pitched to the entire time” (as promised).

Heck, this writer even had a FUN time during and after the event AND made some very exciting new contacts while attending our workshop.

All that glowing testimony aside, the letter’s real intent was surprisingly to address this gentleperson’s opinion that many of the speakers (including ourselves) were doing a gross disservice to ourselves by not dressing and acting (in his opinion) in a manner that was equal to our vast knowledge and expertise.

Now, I ask you, Loyal Reader…

If this gentleperson’s expectations for the event were well surpassed, why did he give a ratt’s ass what we were wearing?

Not that this matters at all, but this wasn’t exactly the first time that this gentleperson had met us…we have been working together for quite some time and should have come to understand what to expect from our “persona”.

With all the gratitude and respect I can muster, I do appreciate this gentleperson’s opinion - but COME ON!

  • Great content
  • Awesome speakers
  • New Contacts
  • AND TONS of FUN?

Whatever….

All I can say is that we are who we are. Lee and his flip flop wearing rocker gear and me in my sassy arm candy ensemble, typically singing into the microphone during breaks.

Hey, it works for us.

This is who we are on and off the stage. Dressing like rock stars makes us feel like we are accurately representing who we are and that only makes our content better and presented in a vastly more comfortable and enjoyable fashion.

I only hope that this gentleperson will take all of the great knowledge that he acquired at our awesome 2 day workshop and makes the most out of all his future endeavors.

Heck, maybe he’ll even buy a pair of flip flops. :-)

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  1. Ross Yingling
    June 19, 2008

    Ahhh. there’s one in every crowd! Apparently this gentleperson has no appreciation for using specific personal image as part of one’s branding strategy.

    An old trial lawyer & political tactic goes sumpin like dis: “When faced with the facts and you cannot attack the message, attack the messenger…”

    Ignore and sail on my shipmates.

    Cheers,
    Ross

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  2. James Wedmore
    June 19, 2008

    Hey Robin!

    I would actually be worried if you and Lee presented on stage in “formal attire” such a as a suit & tie. You are selling your Lifestyle, and if the image you presented onstage to your audience was incongruent with your lives offstage, most would see the disconnect and not be able to relate as well.

    All-in-all, I feel your “fan” is really complimenting you guys and probably comes from a background where their is no alternative to the pin-striped suit. As long as you two continue to have “style” I don’t think its an issue!!

    Cheers,

    James W

    P.S. It was great meeting you both this past weekend in San Jose! I have already begun implementing your Hybrid Marketing tactics in my business…thanks for all the great info!

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  3. Marquerite
    June 19, 2008

    After reading your blog concerning the person who had a problem with your appearrance I just needed to say to you : So what? After all , it is like you say - it was supposed to be a happy and relaxed meeting whereto a person could come for the whole experience. I would give my eyeteeth to be in a position to attend such a meeting!!! But having said that, I also just had to say this to you - by looking at the top of the blog, you guys sure make a handsome couple! I actually though it is models used in the graphics. What a stunning picture of a happy and relaxed couple! So again: So what?

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  4. Day Online Trading
    June 19, 2008

    This letter could have been far worse! This person could have said that he hated what was presented to him, both in information and by all the presenters :-)

    As long as he enjoyed his time with you and learned from the experience, you should both be very happy.

    Continue to enjoy what you do and don’t worry about dressing up to anyone’s expectations.

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  5. Fred Raines
    June 20, 2008

    I say dress code be dammed! It is my understanding that you were presenting information for the good of all. That did not, as I see it, require any type of formal or” business” attire. Of course I could be wrong since that has happened before in my case. Well much good luck to you and next time maybe you could surprise them or he with a surprise get up from the Ohio farm. Keep up the good work.

    fred

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  6. Jim Zaccaria
    July 14, 2008

    Hmmm … Sounds like a story I heard from a presenter @ #ROP in Vegas.

    Personally, I believe it Depends … on the audience, one’s objective and comfort level with their ‘Self’. I agree that one must be congruent with ‘Who’ they are.

    You and Lee DO make a handsome couple and present yourselves as comfortable and Successful - because That’s Who You Are! [Though I do have to say, Robin, that you DO 'carry' Lee ;o)]

    While NOT dressing more ‘formally’ makes many a statement; So DOES dressing more ‘formally’ - IF one gives attention to the details, enough so that they don’t look like everyone else.

    The point is to Stand Out in a Crowded World … to BE SEEN in the manner YOU Set Forth; By - Plan and Design. ALWAYS … BE … YOU … Authentically … No matter What you wear. Then, of course, you Still have to [as Trump said on "The Big Idea" with Donny Deutsch] ‘Deliver the Goods’. We are Always being judged … the question IS … What impression do we want to make on another and Do We Care??

    A question to consider is: “How will this affect my ‘bottom line’?” If it doesn’t matter - then it doesn’t matter, but if it Does, or Might, then I say error on the side of being over dressed. My personal experiments have proved that How I look/dress DOES matter [and it only took me a half-century to ‘get-it’.

    I travel in a suit these days, as I get through airports and Security more easily, though I’m the same guy as I am in flip flops and shorts, though why I can’t wear shorts in public is a story I am unable to share here :o).

    Remember as @BenMack says - YOU - ARE - Your - BRAND! That’s enough ‘ranting’ for me. Thanks for reading MHO … Warmest Regards

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